Yesterday’s gone, tomorrow might never get here, so live every day like it’s your last! (Blatantly plagerized from marcandangel.com)
Stop giving a shit about everyone else’s opinion of you.
Most of what other people think and say about you doesn’t matter. Unless you’re on a job interview or a first date don’t let anyone else’s opinion dictate how you manage yourself or your affairs. What anyone other than you (or perhaps your spouse) thinks about you isn’t important. Who the fuck are they anyhow? What is important is how you feel about yourself.
Stop worrying about being politically correct.
Seriously, gay people know they’re gay, black people know they’re black, as long as you aren’t being a total dick about things, just be yourself. If you are being a dick, then stop, there ain’t no excuse for dickishness.
We all have this little watchdog inside our heads; always watching us. It was born and raised by the people around you, your family, friends, coworkers, etcetera, and its sole purpose is to keep you in line. Just because everyone around you says it’s okay to be a douche. that doesn’t mean it’s okay to be one, but you should always say what you mean and mean what you say. If it isn’t politically correct, so what.
Don’t censor yourself. Speak the truth. Your truth.
Don’t be a slave to fashion.
There is no right way to dress or wrong way to wear your hair. No, you shouldn’t dress like an idiot for the shock factor alone, but know this: everyone who purposely tries to look different ends up looking the same.
By the time punk rock clothes hit the racks at the local mall when I was a kid, real punks had moved on to something else and punk rock was washed up mainstream crap. The same holds true for any style or look.
Be you. If you like shaving your head and wearing 1940′s gangsters outfits, do it! Don’t let anyone but you determine what image you want to project.
What everyone else wants for you doesn’t matter.
Unfortunately, just before you take your first step on the righteous journey to pursue your dreams, people around you, even the ones who deeply care for you, will usually give you awful advice. It’s not because they have evil intentions. It’s because they don’t understand the big picture – what your dreams, passions and life goals mean to you. They don’t understand that, to you, the reward is worth the risk.
Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of any dream, no matter how long the odds of success or how far-fetched, even if it means going it alone. You’ll hate yourself in the long run if you do.
Stop allowing others people to set your boundaries.
There will always be the people who insist that whatever you’re trying to do is impossible. You don’t need people who won’t support your goals in your life. When you come across these people, don’t try to reason with them; just forget that they exist.
Do what you want to do. Go where you want to go. Follow your own heart and intuition. Never accept false choices and don’t ever let others put a cage around you.
Stop giving a shit about what everyone else has.
When you catch yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or someone famous, stop! Realize that you are different, with different strengths – strengths these other people don’t possess. Take a moment to reflect on all the awesome abilities you have and to be grateful for all the good things in your life.
The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life — a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you might have a new destination in mind.
Instead, appreciate where you are and what you have right now. Try comparing yourself to those who have less, those who are dealing with tragedy, and those who are struggling to survive. With any luck that will open your eyes to all the things you should be grateful for.
Stop seeking Utopia.
Utopia is a fictional perfect place, and perfect is the enemy of good enough.
Many of us are perfectionists: I am. A passion for excellence drives us to go the extra mile, never stopping, never relenting, never giving up, but what happens when we get carried away with our perfectionism?
We become depressed, disgruntled, and discouraged.Perfectionists have a hard time starting things and an even harder time finishing them.
The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. It rewards those who get things done, and the only way to get things done is to be less than perfect most of the time. Only through years of practice and imperfection can we begin to achieve momentary glimpses of the perfection we so earnestly seek.
You don’t have to be right all the time.
There are very few absolute ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ in the world. What’s right for you may be wrong for me, and vise versa. People need to live their lives the way that’s right for them.
When it comes to life choices and opinions, not much is worth fighting over. When you feel that old familiar anger boiling up and you want to scream, and cuss, and throw things, walk away. Calm down. Stress is a killer, and not much in this world is worth getting stressed out about.
Don’t beat yourself up over mistakes.
Mistakes teach us important lessons. The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re too scared to make a mistake. Don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself. Be deliberate and think things through as often as possible, but know that very few people are ever 100% positive about anything. Life is about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can be 100% sure doing nothing will get you no where. You just have to go for it!
Either you succeed or you learn something and you start again.
Let go of the things you can’t control.
Some things are beyond your control, and the sooner you accept this fact, the sooner you can get on with the productive things you can control in your life. Wasting your time and energy on things beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation.
The smartest thing you can do to compensate for the things you can’t control is adjusting your attitude. Your attitude has a profound effect on your overall potential. Consuming yourself with the negative aspects of a circumstance gets nothing productive accomplished. But if you instead look at the circumstance productively and positively, coming from the standpoint of “What’s my next best move?” you put yourself back in the driver’s seat.
Nobody gets a do over, but anyone can start over. You may not be able to change what happened, but you can damn sure change your reaction.